Take a notebook. Write something that you like about your spouse or girlfriend in it. Then give it to her to read and say, "Your turn!" It's a running compliment book!
Much like my last post about romance techniques where I talked about love notes, this is a method which can have a very positive impact on relationships. I guess you could call this a huge running love letter, contained in a single notebook and you wouldn't be too far wrong.
The advantage of this romancing tool is that all prior compliments are easily accessible, creating a built-in mood lifter when it is your turn to write something nice about the other person. A simple review of a few entries both to you and about the other person will bring a smile to your face. All too often in life we say more critical things than we mean to - and those criticisms are remembered with much greater alacrity than anything nice we do or say. This simple love journal can help counteract that tendency and keep that "falling-in-love" feeling alive.
Feeling neglected? Just drop a few hints that you'd like to see an entry made in the book. Want to make sure she knows how much you like something? Write it down. Steaming after a fight and want to know why you live with that so-and-so? Take a read down memory lane to remind yourself. This device can really raise the appreciation level that both people feel, which is a major need for some people and feels nice for everyone. I highly recommend it!
I LOVE this idea!
ReplyDeleteSkott and I have done something similar for many years. We keep a notebook in a drawer in the kitchen and it always brings a smile to my face when I see it there on the counter. And the fact that it is in a notebook means they are saved and can be looked through later....